“Hope for the best, prepare for the worst” are the words I live by, but then it hit me one day, why am I preparing for something I don’t want?
I have never been the one to practice the use of positive affirmations. Not that I was against it, it just wasn’t my thing. However, recently I have been trying to do an attitude adjustment, and part of that includes changing the things that I speak into my life and into the lives of others.
I am a self-proclaimed realist. I am not a very optimistic person but I am not a pessimist either. I think I fall somewhere in between. “Hope for the best, prepare for the worst” are the words I live by, but then it hit me one day, why am I preparing for something I don’t want?
God promised not to withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Proverbs 84:11)
It’s one thing to save money in case of emergency or make sure there are always non-perishables and candles in the house just in case there’s a power outage, That’s being responsible, but when does it cross over into inadvertently manifesting bad into your own life? God promised not to withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Proverbs 84:11), but if all I’ve done is prepare for the worst, I won’t be ready for the good thing God has promised me. It’s like not sprucing up your resume because “they’re not going to call me anyway, I don’t qualify”, or not trying to be nice to someone who is constantly giving you a hard time because “they’ll never change”.
The Bible makes so many references to the power of the tongue:
- “Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” Proverbs 18:21
- “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18
- “But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.” Matthew 15:18
- “For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” Matthew 12:37
- “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” Proverbs 21:23
- “From the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach is satisfied; he is satisfied by the yield of his lips” Proverbs 18:20
And so on. As I read and meditated on these scriptures, the power of my own words really resonated with me. Especially when I read Proverbs 18:20 which says “From the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach is satisfied; he is satisfied by the yield of his lips”. The things that come out of our mouth are what we are feeding ourselves. I thought back over some of the things that I said just over the past week. “I’m broke”, “I’m lonely”, “You know my mouth is crazy sometimes”, “I can’t”…. and all of it stuck, nothing changed, what I said is what was.
The funny thing about changing the way you speak is you cannot fool yourself.
I was so busy talking about what money I didn’t have instead of being grateful for the fact that my bills were paid, there was food in my house, gas in my car, and the fact that I didn’t have a little extra cash left in my pocket was more of an annoyance than a setback. I kept speaking loneliness into my life instead of saying “God, I thank you for me time, I thank you for the time I get to spend alone with you, I know you will send my Godly husband as promised and in the meantime I will draw closer to you so that I am ready for him whenever he get’s here”.
The funny thing about changing the way you speak is you cannot fool yourself. It’s one thing to lie to someone else, but you know the truth. This can cause us to feel immediately defeated as we know our power is limited to our own strength, even in the act of change. However, God’s word is true, and through Christ we are able to do all things (Philippians 4:13).
I know, it’s not always easy to see the glass as half full or to find the light at the end of the tunnel.
It is so important to feed yourself with the word of God, this filling will equip you with the truth you need to renew your mind! Knowing his word, and knowing it to be true, I began to speak positive affirmations over my life backed by the word of God:
- God never said I would be broke, that is a lie I told myself and began to believe. God’s word says that he has never “seen the righteous forsaken nor His seed begging bread” (Psalm 37:25). I am a child of God, therefore I am not broke, I am not forsaken, and I will not go hungry.
- God promised that if I “Delight [myself] in the LORD, and he will give [me] the desires of [my] heart” (Psalm 37:4) so I also know I will not be lonely forever, that is a fleeting emotion, because my desire is to have a companion suitable for me (Genesis 2:18).
- I know that I am not exactly qualified for that job but “nothing is impossible with God” (Luke 1:37) and if this is where He would have me to be, the qualifications won’t matter.
I know, it’s not always easy to see the glass as half full or to find the light at the end of the tunnel. However, speaking positive affirmations over my life filled in God’s word has not only served as a reminder and encouragement to me, but has manifested in my life, the lives of people I love, and daily relationships.
I love you on purpose…